An effective stress reduction technique is deep breathing. No one will necessarily notice you doing this, but what a difference it makes. It should calm you down as well as increase your energy flow. It also gives you a chance to rethink what you might want to say, and to observe what else is going on around you.
Another stress reducer is honesty. If you tell the truth, you usually eliminate the problem of trying to remember what you said. Trying to keep stories straight can be a full time project. Honesty is usually the best policy and when people start requesting a cover-up, that’s when you should start reevaluating your position.
If what other people do impacts you negatively, then you have to do something about changing that situation. That may mean a position, a boss, a company or a friend. You, of course, always try to negotiate. But if that doesn’t work or you wind up having to do all the giving, the change should occur.
Of course, there are people who will never make a change because they are fearful or in a rut. Or because of parent tapes or because they are just plain lazy and don’t want to help themselves.
Try to receive criticism openly and don’t become defensive. Just because people don’t agree with you or make alternate suggestions doesn’t mean they are your enemies or are trying to belittle you. Welcome it warmly and with good spirit. Don’t create further feelings of resentment and hostility.
Don’t look for approval in everything you do or you will cause yourself great disappointment. If you want to be a leader, dare to be different, even a little radical, and don’t expect everyone to go along with you. If you are looking for everyone, peer, subordinate and superior, to think you are neat in every decision and absolutely perfect, it just won’t happen.
That can be very destructive to you and can hinder your progress as a manager.