What Motivates a Motivator?

That’s what people are always asking me. Yet, I’ve never considered myself a motivator–always motivating but not a motivator.

I think of it as positive energy. It’s pretty hard to keep me down. I may get depressed for about 30 seconds, but then I always think of the reasons why things can be better. Therefore, I’d like to share with you some thoughts and opinions.

First of all we know that stress is the amount of wear and tear on your body. Too much stress results in burnout and all of us experience different levels of stress. Stress comes from high demand and low control, not from working too many hours, raising a family, going to school or not having enough money. When you are asked to do something and have no say in how it is done, stress WILL result.

Therefore, we all need to have coping mechanisms. For me, it’s exercise, pets and water. For you, it might be music, art, walks, or nature. But you do need ways to cope.

Secondly, we all experience 3000 abrasive incidents a month. That’s right–100 a day. It could be getting up late, going to the refrigerator and there’s no milk left, or your gas tank is on empty or you hit all the red lights. But they will come and as long as you know they’re coming, keep things in perspective, along with the de-stressors you are plugging in, you should survive.

Thirdly, look at the people and things you surround yourself with. Five minutes of negative thinking can take up to 24 hours to recover from. Some of you live or work with negative people and some of your friends are negative people. You may need to make some changes! When people know they have an impact on you and can influence how you live your life (in a non-positive way), they will continue to do so.

Take charge, set up your parameters, do what you say is important to you, live your life the way you want to, and you won’t be so much fun to tease or make miserable any more.

Remember, no one can change anyone else. It’s up to you to make your life the way you want it. We all need to do things on a daily basis that aren’t fun and are routine. But we can also add to our lives by being true to ourselves and what’s meaningful to us.